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Women have it hard enough as it is. Never mind society’s expectations of us (that’s a long laundry list we don’t have time to go into here), or the high standards we set for ourselves … hitting the midlife years can feel like a rebirth you weren’t ready for.

Here at Gurl U R Not Alone, we’re in this together.

Whether you’re a female entrepreneur, a career-long professional or just a part of the over 40 Black girl (excuse us, women) magic crew, Gurl U R Not Alone is a safe space for you to get the support, tools and information you need to battle the breakdowns, get to the breakthroughs and live your most fabulous life ever. Ready to do exactly that? Hit the button below to learn more.

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Whether you’re boo’ed up with a partner or boo’ed up with yourself, there are so many ways to rejoice and celebrate this day of love – especially if you’re a single woman over 40.

In this video, we talk about how to identify unhelpful patterns and how to stop self-sabotaging.

Here are 4 ways you can give yourself the gift of self-care this holiday season.

Sure, when you’re in your teens and even 20s, acne can seem relatively normal. But what do you do when breakouts continue into your 40s?

Now is the perfect time to pump the gas on your entrepreneurial motivations so you can start 2023 right.

We’ve put together a few of our favorite stress-busters so you can live your most fabulous, carefree post-40 life.

Here are some of our favorite tips to put your best face forward after 40.

Here are 3 fall fashion trends that look amazing on women over 40.

Here are 3 fall fashion trends that look amazing on women over 40.

Here are 4 foods you should probably avoid too much of if you want to look and feel your very best

Here are a few tips you can use to stay ahead of the competition and succeed as an entrepreneur.

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We listed down 6 reasons quitting can make you a winner on our latest podcast.

We’ve gathered a few beauty hacks from social media that are perfect for women over 40. Check them out!

The temperature’s heating up and that means one thing … you’re going to need a summer wardrobe! Especially now that cities are opening back up, it’s time to step out into the world. But that begs the question, “What should you wear?” As a woman over 40, you want an outfit that’s not only comfortable, […]

Summer Fashion Must-Haves for Women Over 40

Not sure about your signature style or do you want to find your style after 40? Listen to this.

Belief is the core principle for manifesting a successful business. But you may be wondering, exactly how do you manifest success? How does it work?

Have you noticed how so much of what’s trendy and fashionable right now is what was trendy and fashionable when we were growing up in the 90s?

If you are experiencing this right now, know that you are not alone, and there are ways to cope with the empty nest syndrome.

Let’s start to break the cycle and find genuine happiness within ourselves.

What better way to remind yourself that your 40s can be a time of joy, happiness, fulfillment, abundance and health than with the power of a book?

Here are our 10 picks to help you live fabulously ever after.

As adult children, when imagining our parents as seniors, we may not fully comprehend the extent to which their aging will affect them or how it will affect us. In this episode of the Gurl U R Not Alone podcast, we speak to Rachel Corbin, who has spent over 25 years in the elder care industry, including serving as CEO of Noble Senior Living.

Here are a few pressure-relieving tips to help you beat the bloat.

How do we deal with trauma and find self-compassion after trauma?

Beyond a regular skincare routine and SPF, here are several ways you can rejuvenate and revitalize your Gen X skin.

It’s important to find out who your ideal clients are to truly grow your business. Here are 3 strategies to help you identify your best customers.

How can you keep your mind strong? Here are 5 ways to do just that.

Whether you’ve been staying fit regularly or want to get back on the wagon, here are 4 ways you can stay fit after 40.

Are you prepared to go back to working in the office? Well, we weighed in the pros and cons of the Great Resignation for you.

How do you tip the scales so it isn’t all work and no play? Here are 3 ways to do just that:

What steps do you need to take to put the past behind you and move forward?

If you will have the chance to go back in time, what would you tell your 10, 20-year-old self about skincare and aging itself?

If you feel like you’re ready to move on from your past and write a new love story, then we have some tips for you to consider before going back into the dating world.

At this stage of our lives, we just don’t have time for BS. Don’t go wasting 3 or 4 years of your life, you know what you want! Be true to yourself. So before you get back in the dating pool, we’ve listed down useful tips for you. HAVE AN HONEST CONVERSATION AND ASK THE […]

Midlife may be the turning point for most people – where they take advantage of opportunities to save and build. So how do you do navigate your money in your 40’s and 50’s? Well, life is easier when you have good financial skills, and we gather seven (7) things you need to know to help you financially plan for your future wealth.

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