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Women have it hard enough as it is. Never mind society’s expectations of us (that’s a long laundry list we don’t have time to go into here), or the high standards we set for ourselves … hitting the midlife years can feel like a rebirth you weren’t ready for.

Here at Gurl U R Not Alone, we’re in this together.

Whether you’re a female entrepreneur, a career-long professional or just a part of the over 40 Black girl (excuse us, women) magic crew, Gurl U R Not Alone is a safe space for you to get the support, tools and information you need to battle the breakdowns, get to the breakthroughs and live your most fabulous life ever. Ready to do exactly that? Hit the button below to learn more.

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For some women in midlife, sex can be a little bit worrisome and complicated.

As a single woman in her 40s and beyond, the world is literally your oyster. And while there’s nothing wrong with wanting to be with a partner, the same can be said for singledom.

While winter makes it easy to wear oversized everything, this doesn’t always have to be the case. As a woman in her 40s and beyond, how can you stay stylish and fashionable while also staying warm?

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