we are a community for women over 40. with tools, tips, resources, and transparency we are here to help you make this decade and beyond your best years yet!

Women have it hard enough as it is. Never mind society’s expectations of us (that’s a long laundry list we don’t have time to go into here), or the high standards we set for ourselves … hitting the midlife years can feel like a rebirth you weren’t ready for.

Here at Gurl U R Not Alone, we’re in this together.

Whether you’re a female entrepreneur, a career-long professional or just a part of the over 40 Black girl (excuse us, women) magic crew, Gurl U R Not Alone is a safe space for you to get the support, tools and information you need to battle the breakdowns, get to the breakthroughs and live your most fabulous life ever. Ready to do exactly that? Hit the button below to learn more.

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