we are a community for women over 40. with tools, tips, resources, and transparency we are here to help you make this decade and beyond your best years yet!

Women have it hard enough as it is. Never mind society’s expectations of us (that’s a long laundry list we don’t have time to go into here), or the high standards we set for ourselves … hitting the midlife years can feel like a rebirth you weren’t ready for.

Here at Gurl U R Not Alone, we’re in this together.

Whether you’re a female entrepreneur, a career-long professional or just a part of the over 40 Black girl (excuse us, women) magic crew, Gurl U R Not Alone is a safe space for you to get the support, tools and information you need to battle the breakdowns, get to the breakthroughs and live your most fabulous life ever. Ready to do exactly that? Hit the button below to learn more.

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Not sure about your signature style or do you want to find your style after 40? Listen to this.

Belief is the core principle for manifesting a successful business. But you may be wondering, exactly how do you manifest success? How does it work?

Have you noticed how so much of what’s trendy and fashionable right now is what was trendy and fashionable when we were growing up in the 90s?

If you are experiencing this right now, know that you are not alone, and there are ways to cope with the empty nest syndrome.

Let’s start to break the cycle and find genuine happiness within ourselves.

What better way to remind yourself that your 40s can be a time of joy, happiness, fulfillment, abundance and health than with the power of a book?

Here are our 10 picks to help you live fabulously ever after.

As adult children, when imagining our parents as seniors, we may not fully comprehend the extent to which their aging will affect them or how it will affect us. In this episode of the Gurl U R Not Alone podcast, we speak to Rachel Corbin, who has spent over 25 years in the elder care industry, including serving as CEO of Noble Senior Living.

Here are a few pressure-relieving tips to help you beat the bloat.

How do we deal with trauma and find self-compassion after trauma?

Beyond a regular skincare routine and SPF, here are several ways you can rejuvenate and revitalize your Gen X skin.

It’s important to find out who your ideal clients are to truly grow your business. Here are 3 strategies to help you identify your best customers.

How can you keep your mind strong? Here are 5 ways to do just that.

Whether you’ve been staying fit regularly or want to get back on the wagon, here are 4 ways you can stay fit after 40.

Are you prepared to go back to working in the office? Well, we weighed in the pros and cons of the Great Resignation for you.

How do you tip the scales so it isn’t all work and no play? Here are 3 ways to do just that:

What steps do you need to take to put the past behind you and move forward?

If you will have the chance to go back in time, what would you tell your 10, 20-year-old self about skincare and aging itself?

If having people second guess your age and mistake you for being someone’s sister is more your prerogative, you don’t need to rely on surgery to look younger.

Here are some tips on how to shrug off these midlife blues.

If you feel like you’re ready to move on from your past and write a new love story, then we have some tips for you to consider before going back into the dating world.

At this stage of our lives, we just don’t have time for BS. Don’t go wasting 3 or 4 years of your life, you know what you want! Be true to yourself. So before you get back in the dating pool, we’ve listed down useful tips for you. HAVE AN HONEST CONVERSATION AND ASK THE […]

The steps we need to take for financial stability.

Hot flashes, insomnia, emotional changes, vaginal dryness, weight gain, and depression are a few of the symptoms women experienced during menopause. Here’s how to cope.

Here are 4 moves to increase the blood flow to your muscles for an easier, smoother start to your day.

If you might be scared or unsure of how to make the transition to entrepreneurship, here are three things you should keep in mind when deciding to make a career switch.

As a single woman in her 40s and beyond, the world is literally your oyster. And while there’s nothing wrong with wanting to be with a partner, the same can be said for singledom.

While winter makes it easy to wear oversized everything, this doesn’t always have to be the case. As a woman in her 40s and beyond, how can you stay stylish and fashionable while also staying warm?

Midlife may be the turning point for most people – where they take advantage of opportunities to save and build. So how do you do navigate your money in your 40’s and 50’s? Well, life is easier when you have good financial skills, and we gather seven (7) things you need to know to help you financially plan for your future wealth.

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