At this stage of our lives, we just don’t have time for BS. Don’t go wasting 3 or 4 years of your life, you know what you want!
Be true to yourself.
So before you get back in the dating pool, we’ve listed down useful tips for you.
HAVE AN HONEST CONVERSATION AND ASK THE QUESTION
After dating for quite some time and you find yourself enjoying his company and his to you. It’s time to open another door. Ask him if he is ready to take this to another level. Is he seeing your relationship going somewhere more serious? A marriage, perhaps? ‘Cause girl, you don’t have time to play, and if he is not in for the long run then it’s better to get a sense of his intentions before you fully invest your time with him. We are not saying you have to rush things and decide things right there and then, just get the idea if your and his view of the future is the same.
KNOW YOUR PRIORITIES
Whatever your priorities are, whatever your love values are, it should be aligned with whoever you are going to date. So before getting yourself in the dating pool, know what your priorities are and let the other person know it, too.
KEEP WORKING ON YOURSELF
Continue to grow, develop and evolve as an individual. Make yourself a more interesting person. Make yourself happy, pursue your hobby instead of getting that from somebody else.
ALLOW THE OTHER PERSON TO HEAL
Dating after 40 is not like walking in the park. You both have so many experiences in your lives that you may not know that you have existing baggage and issues that need to be addressed. Maybe, he has lots of stuff to deal with first? Maybe, you still need time to heal? Don’t rush, realize your flaws, and be there for each other while you both work on things.
DATE FOR THE RIGHT REASON
Okay, time to reflect, girl. What is your reason for dating? What is your goal? What do you envision? Is this truly what you want? You can’t force yourself to love someone, and you can’t force someone to love you. It comes naturally. And if you date for the sake of whatnot, and it’s not from the heart, maybe it’s time to reflect first.
Yes, dating after 40 is tough, but don’t be afraid to put yourself out there. Find what you love, participate in hobbies and events that you enjoy. Who knows, you might meet the one in there.
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