After spending your life with someone you expected to be with forever, claiming yourself as newly single and divorced can be a challenge you aren’t sure you’re prepared for.
While divorce can be an incredibly painful process, it doesn’t mean that life ends or that your best years are behind you (although it may very well feel like that at first).
In fact, many women find that they blossom into their best selves after a divorce. But, how exactly do you do that? What steps do you need to take to put the past behind you and move forward?
Here are 4 things you can do to start living your most fabulous divorced life right now:
Tip #1: Take a Solo Trip
After a divorce, the last thing you may want to do is spend more time alone. But truth is, getting away from it all can give you the space, time and freedom to truly process the change that’s occurred.
When you travel on your own, you teach yourself a valuable lesson – that you CAN have fun, do new things and thrive all on your own. If a solo trip is too hard, then try a girl’s trip or take the kids with you.
Tip #2: Get Help
Sometimes the anger, hurt and sadness that come with a divorce can be overwhelming. While you can certainly depend on your girlfriends and family to lend support, entrusting a professional to help you handle and process your feelings can be extremely beneficial for your mental, emotional and spiritual health.
If you have children, consulting with a professional counselor can provide you with the right skillset to manage your children’s emotions as they deal with the separation as well as give you a safe space to vent without judgment.
Tip #3: Start Dating
This part may be the most daunting, but you don’t have to start dating with the intention of getting married again. Start dating so you can have fun. Keep it light and don’t worry about rushing anything. The idea is just to get back out there, have some fun and live more fully.
Tip #4: Know You Are Not Alone
While hearing the latest divorce stats never makes anyone feel better, truth is, divorce is becoming more common, especially post-pandemic. Translation? You aren’t alone. There are countless women out there who are going through or have been through a divorce.
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